The term “cages of anger” refers to the onset of extreme rage which results in your inability to forgive people. I’d be lying if I said that I don’t possess this badge. For someone who had just entered her ‘teenage’, battling against tremendous confusion is hard. I often thought my anger made me stronger. Now, with a better understanding of the world around, I have come to realize how often I let my anger take the best of me. It is not a trait I am proud of but I’ve finally conceded it. It truly instills a sense of regret in me every moment I look back at the innumerable times my anger has put me in jeopardy. I have just begun this journey of having control of my emotions rather than letting them get to me.
Self-realization and acceptance are inevitable to change. One can initiate a change only if they rationalize the need for it. Pursuit of ignorance leads to the creation of this synthetic world where one associates himself with being flawless, leaving nil scope of improvement. Living in a state of Denial is synonymous with the friction that constantly holds you back from being the better version of yourself.
After accepting comes the understanding. Where does this anger arise from? We all consider anger as a negative emotion yet we fail to acknowledge it as a disease of the mind which needs to be fixed. Krishna states that once we start associating an object with our happiness, we sow the seeds of attachment in our mind which grow into desire. This greed is insatiable and failure of its fulfillment gives rise to anger. What is anger? Bhagavad Gita describes anger as an emotion that impairs our sense of judgment, leading to a baffling memory. The loss of one’s ability to differentiate between right and wrong marks their downfall. The one who attains control of his mind is able to give up materialistic happiness even while using the object.
I feel that anger is the punishment we give to ourselves for someone else’s behavior
What is anger?
Anger as a whole is very subjective ranging from mild annoyance to a mountainous range. It is a necessary emotion and it is also healthy to express your exasperation from time to time but we often unknowingly cross the line. Every time I encounter rage, my mind actually tells me to calm down and I do pause for a second, but only to conclude that the person in front of me is wrong and deserves this rage so maybe I’ll control it next time. It is only later that the feeling of guilt peeks in.
I am not a very forgiving person but over time I have been able to comprehend that holding onto grudges is not worth compromising our peace of mind. In other words, giving someone else the power to control our minds and emotions is lethal to our existence. We do not possess the ability to change a person so bothering about their actions is actually a waste of time. Getting affected by trivial inconveniences, which are not worth a reaction, just projects how gullible we are. It is important that we train ourselves to accept some people the way they are and not having peaked expectations which will work towards our dismal in the near future.
I feel that anger is the punishment we give to ourselves for someone else’s behavior. And not everyone we come across deserves such an intimate representation of our emotions. Therefore It is on us to be strong-headed and decide what needs to be held on. I long for the day I’ll be able to celebrate my emancipated thoughts and escape these self-built cages of anger.